Getting backers for your ideas takes energy and creativity. But it 
also takes a little bit of self-awareness. Sheer volume alone won’t help
 push your project forward. Success isn’t a numbers game. It’s about 
developing a feedback mechanism where you learn from each conversation 
you have and then refine each pitch as you go.
To help you devise 
that feedback mechanism I’m going to do a deeper dive and share some of 
the common mistakes people unknowingly make and 7 strategies that will 
help you overcome them. I’ve tested these strategies out with engineers 
who were looking to lead projects, founders who were looking to raise 
money from investors, and even entry-level employees looking to get 
their first job!
1. It’s not about you. I’ve
 noticed that many people just sit down and start talking about 
themselves, and what they need. They don’t take the time to thank the 
other person for their time, and get to know what their interests are. 
Start by giving the other person 3-5 minutes. Let them speak and share 
their background.
Here’s a simple script you can use:
“Thanks
 for taking the time to meet with me. Before I dive into telling you 
about myself and what I’m working on, I’d like to get to know. I know 
you’ve done a lot, but I’d like to know what your current interests are 
and what you’re working on?”
This may lead them off-topic, 
but it will clear their mind. You’ll notice that they’ll put their cell 
phone down and that they’ll pause to reflect and then speak. They’ll 
open up to you, because you asked them to. They’ll also tell you 
something you can use to persuade them: what matters to them and what 
doesn’t.
2. Talk vision, not skills. Pitches are 
about possibilities. I’ve come across many engineers who say, “Oh I’m a 
Ruby on Rails developer.” Instantly the person on the other ends think, 
“Oh too bad I was looking for a Python developer, moving on…” The 
engineer should have instead said, “I’m a backend engineer, who has 
built web applications for growth stage startups. I pick up new 
frameworks pretty quickly. In fact, here’s an example of a time I had to
 learn iOS within a weekend for a hackathon…”
3. Offer unique expertise.
 If you are a domain expert, highlight that, and give clear examples. 
Think about your own experiences and how that has led to you have a 
particular expertise.
I just met with a founder yesterday, who 
told me that everyone on his founding team had worked for at least one 
of the competitors. Talk about unfair advantage!
And if, after 
reflection, you find you truly don’t have any unique expertise to offer,
 consider this your wakeup call. Go out and find something that only you
 can offer so you – and your ideas – are truly irreplaceable.
4. Build trust.
 I cannot emphasize this point enough. People are concerned about their 
ass being on the line if they back you in any capacity: hiring, 
financing your idea, even working with or for you. So you need to take 
the time to mitigate any concerns they have about risk.
Luckily, 
trust is built in a number of ways. You can have a set of referral 
customers, highlight where you went to school, past employers who are 
reputable, tell them about awards you’ve received and showcase things 
you’ve built. Even writing and speaking builds trust.
My best backers show up to a meeting or call having googled me, read a post, or watched one of my YouTube videos. They already have a solid impression of me before I’m in front of them!
5. Call out the competition.
 If you’re doing something that everyone else is doing that is OK. It’s 
not about being original, it’s about how you’re better than the other 
person, and better also means highlighting how you’re different.
For
 example, when I was hiring an editor last year for my first book, I met
 with a handful of editors. Most told me: I do grammar edits, I cost 
$75/hour, and my turnaround time is usually 48 hours.
The editor 
that I ended up hiring took the time to tell me how she was different. 
She explained her process, she asked me questions about my audience, and
 she even gave me a sample edit of a chapter so I could get a taste of 
what the finished product would look like. It was a no-brainer for me to
 choose to hire her versus the pool of candidates who all sounded the 
same.
6. Plan – but experiment, too. Clear 
visions are important, but you also need to bring it down to reality. 
Show how you are going execute. It’s OK to present people with a plan, 
and make it specific, and acknowledge how that plan might evolve or 
change. It shows great foresight.
7. Explain the urgency.  Don’t
 end the meeting wishy washy. Tell them why you need their backing now, 
not five years from now. When someone isn’t interested, ask for intros 
for others. Just because they aren’t interested doesn’t mean their 
friends won’t be.
I had an investor who once didn’t understand my 
space, he referred me to his friend. His friend was psyched after our 
meeting, invested, and then convinced the original investor to put in 
capital along with another. Interesting things happen when you ask.
8. Practice, Practice, Practice. If
 they aren’t asking to follow up or asking insightful questions, then 
they aren’t interested. This is not a sign of failure. This is another 
step closer to your turning point. You edge closer with each request as 
long as you stay self-aware and read their cues. Ask for feedback, 
process it and address what you think is relevant to future meetings. 
Commitment to this strategy will help bring your project to life.
Source:  Poornima Vijayashanker (Founder of Femgineer)